Black lives matter! Being black in this country is absolutely exhausting! Today our son is the cutest little thing you ever did see. When he is 15, 16 or 20 will he still be the cutest thing you/they ever did see? Or will he be someone you are afraid of, intimidated by or fearful for your life because he is black?!
The rules do not equally apply
My husband wanted to get a concealed weapon permit and I pleaded and begged him not to do it because the rules do not equally apply to us. Even when you do things by the book, when you cooperate AND even when you are unarmed, you are still at a greater risk of being murdered by the police!
My husband and my son are my whole entire world! His life matters! My son’s life matters! I have no room for you if we are a black family you can just tolerate but you HATE the rest of “us”. I have no room for you if you want to associate yourself with me because “I don’t act black”. By the way, that’s racist! I am a black woman with pride with a beautiful black family that I am proud of. These are HUMAN black lives that should matter! Every one of us should be outraged!
I have cried more times than I care to share. But I am cautiously optimistic change is coming. The change this country so desperately needs.
Let’s all do our part
How you choose to show up and fight for change is a personal choice. Do not guilt yourself if you cannot make it out to protest. Do not guilt yourself if you cannot donate. Just do what you can to “be the change you want to see in the world’. And when this is no longer trending, I hope you will continue to do your part! Below you will find a Resource Guide.
Black voices to learn from
- Brittany Packnett Cunningham– Activist & Writer: Instagram / Facebook
- Eddie Glaude Jr.- Chair, Dept. For African American Studies, Princeton University – MSNBC Contributor: Twitter
- Rachel Elizabeth Cargle – Educator & Writer : Instagram
- Monique Melton – Anti-racism Educator : Instagram / Podcast
- Luvvie Ajayi Jones – Author & Speaker : Instagram / Facebook / Podcast *She also gives me a good laugh!
- Therapy for Black Girls by Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, Licensed Psychologist : Instagram / Facebook / Twitter / Podcast
- Jay Shetty – Purpose Coach : Instagram / Facebook / Twitter / Youtube / Podcast
- Brown Girl Self-Care – Self-care resources : Instagram / Facebook / Podcast
A few kid books you will love
- Please, Baby, Please by Spike Lee & Tonya Lewis Lee
- Brown Boy Joy by Dr. Thomishia Booker
- Full, Full, Full of LOVE by Trisha Cooke
- Lola at the Library by Anna McQuinn
- So Much by Trisha Cooke
- Little Leaders: Bold Women In Black History by Vashti Harrison
- Little Legends: Exceptional Men in Black History by Vashti Harrison
- My Heart Fills With Happiness by Monique Gray Smith *Ordered this for Joakim
- The Conscious Kid– Is a research and policy organization dedicated to reducing bias and promoting positive identity development in youth.
- Dad Who Will I Be? by G. Todd Taylor * Joakim’s favorite book!
- Peekaboo Morning by Rachel Isadora
Books–This list was created with the help of my Sorors Stephanie and Kimya.
- Democracy in Black: How Race Still Enslaves the American Soul by Eddie S. Glaude Jr.
- The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas
- Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America by Ibram X Kendi * Currently reading
- Stamped: Racism, Anti-racism, and You: A Remix of Stamped from the Beginning by Ibram X Kendi & Jason Reynolds
- White Fragility by Robin Diangelo
- Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla Saad
- The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander
- When The Call You A Terrorist: A Black Lives Matter Memoir by Patrisse Khan & Asha Bandele
- How to Be an Anti-racist by Ibram X Kendi
- Between the World and Me by ta-Nehisi Coates
- The Fire Next Time by James Baldwin
- On The Come Up by Angie Thomas
- Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower by Brittany Cooper
- Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About Race by Beverly Daniel Tatum
- Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot by Mikki Kendall
- So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
- The Color of Law: A Forgotten History of How Our Government Segregated America by Richard Rothstein
- Makes Me Wanna Holler: A Young Black Man in America by Nathan McCall
- God Don’t Like Ugly by Mary Monroe
- Playing in the Dark: Whiteness and the Literary Imagination by Toni Morrison
- Beloved by Toni Morrison
- Phenomenal – Lifestyle brand that brings awareness to social causes.
- Alexandra Winbush– Shop candles and tea.
- Red Bay Coffee
- Lip Bar– Makeup.
- The Honey Pot Company– Plant-based feminine products.
- Browndages– Bandages for people of color.
- Black Girl Sunscreen
- lit Brooklyn– Candles
- Mess in a Bottle– Clothing brand
- McBride Sisters– Wine
- NAACP(National Association for the Advancement of Colored People)
- ACLUVA(The American Civil Liberties Union of Virginia)
- ACLU(American Civil Liberties Union)
- Color of Change
- Black Lives Matter
- When We All Vote
VOTE!!! Vote like your life depends on it!
I will continuously update this guide.
*Feature photo credit: @alexis_delilah. Projection by @videometry