I’ve got you covered with a list of 7 things no one tells you before having kids. Your friends and relatives share an awful lot with you when you finally decided to share you are expecting. From kid’s gear, nursery items, their feeding experience to childbirth. But no one tells you the nitty and gritty of what to expect well after you delivered. Some may feel judged and others may find it too personal. For me, I struggle with the idea of perfection. I want people to know they are not alone; we are all dealing with some of the very same things. So, you need to leave your judgement behind.
There is no such thing as perfect. You will get upset; you may even raise your voice sometimes. Give yourself some grace. Parenting is hard work. Some days you’re going to feel like you are drowning and other days you will feel like you’re winning at motherhood and you probably are!
First of the 7 things no one tells you before having kids-Privacy
It will be a long time coming before you can go to the bathroom alone again. Privacy, what is that? Everywhere you go they will be right at your heels following along. Turns out this helped a lot with potty training.
You have waited months for your child to say, “mama” now you want to change your name for a day!
Parenting requires lots of patience. No one will test your inner gansta like these little humans. I mean seeing red or the colors of the rainbow as Ty describes it. They will have you putting your own self in a corner and counting to 10! Like when is bedtime?! We are currently in the thick of the terrible twos!
The little guys
Boys are harder to keep alive! They have no fear. They climb on anything, they try and jump off everything, then fall only to want to do it all over again. You are constantly in savior mode.
You will clean up all day long. It is a battle of cleaning in the moment or letting your child enjoy the colorful mess they have created and worry about it later. You may find yourself complaining about needing to clean often, but you probably will never complain about the joyful moments that were created during the mess.
Looking for greatness
The overwhelming feeling of just wanting to get it right all the time. Trying to be the parent you may not have had. Not wanting to create the same dysfunction you may have experienced growing up. Wanting to be the best parent you can possibly be. Listen! It’s no accident, you were chosen to be your child’s mother. They need you; they trust you and feel safe and secure with you. Honor that! Show up every single day as your best self but do not forget the importance of self-care.
Our little secrets- last but not least of the 7 things no one tells you before having kids
I saved the best one for last! Hemorrhoids- the right of passage into motherhood! You hear all about them during pregnancy well some do not want to talk about it then either. No judgement here!! No person, no book, no doctor not even in nursing school does anyone tell you hemorrhoids can come well after having a baby and their you are walking around like, “something don’t feel right”. Ha-ha. Don’t you dare ask your partner to take a peek. J/K. Off to the doctor’s office you go like, “umm”.